.The girl I’m courting is saying that I need to spend more time with her.I don’t know how. Please help?

Lyonn asked:


OK, I’ve known this girl for like 2 years now, as a bestfriend, now I’m courting her to become my girlfriend. It’s been fine and dandy. Some moments there, some sexual intimacies once in a while, romantic dates and fun and all that. But then, we started going to the same college. She’s taking up nursing and I’m taking up International Studies. She’s a sophomore and I’m a junior. Since I’m a junior, I get loads of assignments and am busy with schoolwork.

Other than that, I budget and handle my kid sister’s (and her nanny’s) finances and budgeting at home since my mom is out of the country almost indefinitely, but still sending financial support, and my dad is dead.

I also have extra-curricular activties such as going to the gym working out right, after my last 3PM class, until 6 in the evening. And on friday nights, I go to an Aikido class and on Saturdays, I go to Muay Thai and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu classes. Sundays is when I make and complete all my school requirements for the next week.

OK, so now, since I’m so god damn busy, this guy, out of nowhere, starts texting and calling my girl everyday. She doesn’t get bored or creeped out by it because he finds the guy “sweet”. The guy also gives my girl a free ride every day to her place. But does not go in the house because my girl’s mom is there. And she will always be there because she’s a houswife and a stage mother.

I asked my friend about who’s better looking and macho and talented between that guy and me. And he said I am. He said the guy is some dark-skinned (not black) 48kilo local-faced guy who doesn’t have a fashion sense. I on the other hand am not that good-looking but I do have face-value, although I have a few acne, but who doesn’t? And I am 70kg macho and am quite fashionable as I had local modelling experience.

Now, compared to this guy, appearance-wise any woman would choose me. But, my girl tells me that I need to spend more time with me. She says I don’t even call or text her during the week and rarely visits her on weekends. Well…what’s the point on texting her if she’s in class and wouldn’t reply right away anyways? I’d call, but that’ll be in the evening and she might be studying or something.

OK..so I’m in trouble…what do I do to make her feel like I’m still here?
Any advices?

Ella